My definition of Wellness: Having the awareness to make conscious choices in your life that lead toward a state of physical, mental & social well-being, so you can have the clarity and confidence to embrace change, continue to grow to reach your full potential, and live a fulfilling, purposeful life.
If you’re anything like me you enjoy working on yourself and striving for an over-the-top life of joy, meaning, purpose and happiness.
Conscious choice is the key word in the definition above. We all make choices every day that affect the life we lead. Are your conscious choices based on your identified goals or are you winging it?
Makes you think, right?
One thing I know for sure is…life isn’t always easy. Certainly you know that anything truly worthwhile usually isn’t easy. If it were everyone would be a huge success. And that just isn’t our reality.
So do you want to be one of the few that lead by example? Are you willing to step up and reach your desired state of wellness?
Here are 3 things to think about:
- Wellness is about the body, the mind and the spirit
- Having an amazing life is about making conscious choices
- Wellness is a continuous journey as there is always room for improving and mastering life
So let’s dig in…
You know that throughout life there are beautiful periods of awareness and growth. You also know that sometimes you experience tough times that knock you down a peg…or two… or three! That’s normal. So don’t let the back pedaling get to you. Yes, it sucks! Feel it…question it…get angry…ask why…learn from it…but don’t let tough times take away your life.
Often in the end you’ll realize that tough times really are the opportunity for huge growth and self-awareness. For example, some of the awful things that I’ve experienced in my life have given me the ability to help others get back on their feet today. The fact that my rock bottom times have helped me lift others up eases the heaviness of my past painful experiences.
There have been times when I thought I’d processed all the junk in my trunk. Oh yeah…clear sailing now… I’m all buttoned up. But not so. Quite frankly, this just makes me chuckle now.
From my own life experience I know that there is always something to uncover even when we think we’ve got it all going on!
When I arrived at my Soul Searching Retreat last year in Bali I felt on top of the world . I was thrilled to be in a place I’d always wanted to visit. As for the retreat…let’s just say I was excited to take my happiness up another notch. Within two days of diving deep into our lives our entire group, including me, were questioning, blubbering, boo-hooing, and flip-flopping from collapsing into a big heap one moment…to dying with laughter in the next.
Emotions are like the metal ball in a pinball machine. Shifting from “this sucks” to “it’s ok” to “oh, no it’s not” Geez…makes you feel a little crazy, right!
No one escapes this world without some emotional harm. Do you process and move on? Or do you stuff it down deep never to open that Pandora’s Box again?
What I’ve noticed is that without facing these wounds people never change and miss out on a whole lot of living, because they are so busy reacting negatively to the world around them.
Have you ever felt like you’ve made a major leap in your understanding of self only to discover shortly thereafter another “hidden hurt” that demands to be heard. A wound from the past seeps to the surface or a negative belief that is tired of lying in wait returns. Suddenly it rears it’s ugly head, and you’re dumbfounded.
What the heck is this? Perhaps you’re surprised, because you thought you’d dealt with this little bugger years ago. And suddenly it’s back! Not at all ready to disappear!
Self-discovery is a life long process. Yes, you may have dealt with this wound before but with maturity there is another level of awareness that opens the wound once again.
What I know for sure is stuffing feelings down, and trying to ignore them, will not make them go bye-bye! I’ve learned so much about myself from stepping on these mind fields. One moment you’re great then suddenly something bubbles up to the top. It can be something that you thought you processed long ago, but in reality it was sitting right beneath the surface. Undetectable in your thoughts, but with hindsight you can see that it was driving not only your reactions, behaviors, and your way of thinking, but your interpretation of the behaviors and words of those around you.
WHOA…this is deep…
But don’t try to stuff it, because it’ll only seep back in in a bigger way later in your life. You can run, but you can’t hide. Hurt, shame, embarrassment, self doubt, ability to accept love, etc. will erect barricades that block your way to a peaceful, calming, beautiful life.
Personally I’d rather face them and move past what has held me back in the past. Most of the blocks I carried I didn’t even know I had. I just knew there were times when everything seemed so hard. In the last decade the universe whammied me big time.
My marriage ended, I lost my nest egg when the market tanked in 2008, I was sued, my relationships were troublesome, and I was partying like nobody’s business with all the other crazy newly divorced people in my life.
One day I just snapped out of it. Enough! But I still hadn’t faced the invisible blocks. That took time, because there is no way to see them without clarity.
I don’t regret my path. What I learned from so many mistakes and misfortunes is that we bring this sh*t upon ourselves. Even the really ugly stuff. This is the yin and yang of life.
“I wouldn’t take nothing for my journey now” is a saying I complete embrace. I wouldn’t change a thing even the awful times, because now I truly appreciate the beauty of life by understanding life’s difficulties.
In the end happiness is a choice. You can’t change your past, but you can use the lessons you’ve learned to know where your compass points now. Better decisions come with a strong foundation of wellness. All the emotions you feel create the life you lead. By processing the negative, and releasing heavy burdens, you can feel, and see, the light that is unbounded happiness.
I don’t know about you, but I am enjoying this amazing journey called life! I love the opportunities for expansion, the courage that comes from opening your heart, and the beauty that shows up when you’re ready for it. The opportunity to help someone. The opportunity to connect with someone new. You just never know what is heading your way.
I’m comfortable with uncertainty, because I don’t want to lead an ordinary life. For me, everyday is an adventure! I wake up every day curious and excited. No matter what happens I choose to see the beauty, the love, the opportunity and the wonder of what will this day bring.
This is the life of an optimist!